I wrote this six years ago, and due to that, the title of this article is long lost. Interesting to look back at how my mind worked six years ago. So many have changed, yet a lot are still the same.
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It is no secret to anyone that I am a
fool when it comes to love. It is also no surprise to anyone that I am
single since birth. Not that I am complaining but still, I can’t escape
questions from friends and families alike on why I am still single. I
don’t know if this is normal or not, but, if ever I finally get to have a
girlfriend, I want her to be the first and only girlfriend that I will
ever have. I want her to be the one I would walk the aisle with. I want
her to be the one I would spend the rest of my life with. But everyday
knowledge would tell me otherwise.
Just think, how many married couples do you know would fit what is stated above? Personally, I don’t know of any. Plus we hear a lot of people say, “Masyado ka namang seryoso! enjoy mo lang”, or “Masyado ka pang bata”.
Just think, how many married couples do you know would fit what is stated above? Personally, I don’t know of any. Plus we hear a lot of people say, “Masyado ka namang seryoso! enjoy mo lang”, or “Masyado ka pang bata”.
Now, that last statement is what I don’t understand the most. In my mind I am thinking, “Bakit ka pa mag gigirlfriend, kung maghihiwalay lang din pala kayo?”
I mean, sure, the odds are that you would one day, face problems,
deal with trials, and you and your girlfriend/boyfriend might not be
able to sort things out and just decide to go on separate ways. BUT,
shouldn’t that be some sort of warning? Getting in a relationship and
facing problems, one should already be aware of that and be prepared about it. If
you really love that person, then why give up? What is the sense of
being in a relationship when you expect that it would end up in the two
of you breaking up?
Some may say, “Akala ko kasi, ‘siya’ na.hindi pa pala”. Now, then my answer to that is, “Paano mo nalaman na hindi nga siya iyon?”
Just think of this situation; when someone comes into your life, and you love him/her, you would say “Siya na. Sa wakas dumating na ‘siya’”. But when the two of you break up, or hurt each other, more often than not, you would say “Hindi pa pala siya.”
You would say that over and over and over again, until you finally get married and finally say that your wife/husband is the one. But how sure can you be? Because you are together? Because you got married to each other? What if the two of you get divorced? Then he/she isn’t the one? How could you say that you have finally found him/her when you can so easily say that someone isn’t him/her just because things didn’t worked out? Don’t you think that that person could arrive in a less literal way? For that person to arrive to your life, it could be as simple as really loving that person, living your life with that person, understanding that person, coping up with his/her short comings, weathering the storm, suffering all the sufferings and still come out standing and smiling, and, just having trust and faith, not only to him/her, but also to Him.
Some may say, “Akala ko kasi, ‘siya’ na.hindi pa pala”. Now, then my answer to that is, “Paano mo nalaman na hindi nga siya iyon?”
Just think of this situation; when someone comes into your life, and you love him/her, you would say “Siya na. Sa wakas dumating na ‘siya’”. But when the two of you break up, or hurt each other, more often than not, you would say “Hindi pa pala siya.”
You would say that over and over and over again, until you finally get married and finally say that your wife/husband is the one. But how sure can you be? Because you are together? Because you got married to each other? What if the two of you get divorced? Then he/she isn’t the one? How could you say that you have finally found him/her when you can so easily say that someone isn’t him/her just because things didn’t worked out? Don’t you think that that person could arrive in a less literal way? For that person to arrive to your life, it could be as simple as really loving that person, living your life with that person, understanding that person, coping up with his/her short comings, weathering the storm, suffering all the sufferings and still come out standing and smiling, and, just having trust and faith, not only to him/her, but also to Him.
Then again, people might say, “Bata ka pa, hindi mo pa alam sinasabi mo”,
and I just won’t accept that. Sure, I never ever had a girlfriend
before, but does that mean that I don’t have knowledge about those
things? I never got into a relationship before, but I had experienced a
lot of painful rejections, and each and every time, I learned something. Yes, I know
that the odds are very small that your first and only
girlfriend/boyfriend would be your partner for life. All the times that you would tell yourself, “Mahal ko pa ba siya?”
and how many times you get to say yes, rather than say no, until the
time that both of you would say the most significant ‘yes’ in your
lives. Science, math, and the numbers are just all against me, but then
again, science tells us that emotions are from the brain, and right they
are, but why do people still insists on drawing hearts as a symbolism
of love?
Maybe, just maybe, if a couple just really love each other, they might just beat the odds, and live happily ever after. But then again, I might just be saying this because I never had one. Still, when the time comes, I hope that what I had stated above would happen, and you can bet that I would do all I could to make it happen.
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